22 Wishes of a Person with Dementia: A Reminder to Treat Me with Dignity and Respect

As we age, our bodies and minds undergo changes, and some of these changes can lead to illnesses like dementia. Dementia is a decline in cognitive function, which can make it challenging for individuals, carers, and loved ones to communicate effectively.

During a visit to a care facility, we were given the opportunity to see a wishlist written by a client with dementia, reminding us to treat individuals with dementia with dignity and respect.

22 wishes for my friends and family to follow:

Embrace my reality.
Let me believe what makes me happy.
Don’t argue with me about what is true.
Don’t take it personally if I don’t recognise you.
Switch me to finger foods if I can’t use utensils.
Listen to me if I am sad or anxious.
Treat me like an adult.
Help me enjoy the things I’ve always enjoyed.
Ask me to tell you a story from my past.
Figure out what is bothering me if I become agitated.
Treat me the way you want to be treated.
Ensure that there are plenty of snacks for me.
Don’t talk about me as if I’m not in the room.
Don’t feel guilty if you cannot care for me 24/7.
Visit me often if I live in a dementia care community.
Don’t act frustrated if I mix up names or events.
Play my favourite music.
Help me return items to their original place.
Don’t exclude me from parties or gatherings.
Remember that I like receiving hugs or handshakes.
Make a living will with a “do not resuscitate” instruction.
Remember that I am still the person you know and love.

Dementia can be challenging, but by following these 22 wishes, friends, family and staff can help make the journey more comfortable and dignified for this client. We must commit to treating individuals with dementia with compassion and consider their wishes and needs.

Placing this wishlist in a visible location in your workplace, or at home, can serve as a constant reminder to treat individuals with dementia with dignity and respect, even if their condition progresses.